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Becky,
This message sounds like grief, bordering on depression.
If it continues, seek doctor's help for an antidepressant medication.
It is normal to feel a loss from death of a loved one, because the person
is no longer present physically. I believe that it is only the body that dies
because it becomes too old or has a physical illness....deteriorates. The
body is a vehicle in this physical life. This life is important to reach the
next level in the Kingdom of God. Just as Jesus arose from the dead into
a new spiritual body (that he could allow others to see when he wished),
our souls continue to live in a new existence. I have talked to a person
who had a near-death experience in the emergency room. He told me
that he left his body and watched and heard everyone around his body
from a spot near the ceiling of the room. He could voice what was said
by who said it. He said he felt at peace and would never fear death again.
Eventually, he re-entered his body; but it was painful because his body
was struggling to survive. I have about near-death experience before, so
I recognized what he was telling me. When my father died, he raised his
arm as he reached with his hand, as if taking someone's hand. Then,
he died. I told my sister-in-law Sally about that on the phone. She was
dying with metastasis from gallbladder to liver, etc. She thought that was
totally awesome! When she died, her sister and mother told me that Sally
raised both of her arms as if to greet and hug someone (unseen), then died
peacefully.
What I am trying to say to you is that for the person who dies, it is a release
or an escape of suffering from a body that can no longer serve them....but the
person's soul continues to live and be aware. That is what death is, in my opinion,
the parting of the soul from the body.
For me, I am not ready to leave this world yet. But there will come at time when
I will welcome it....an escape from any suffering, pain, and to let go and move on
to the promise of what is to come. I believe, that all of the people you mentioned
probably feel the same way. As long as we can continue to interact with this place,
time, and people and not be suffering, we will continue to keep on going physically.
But, when circumstances change drastically, we eventual will give up the struggle
and be greeted by unseen guardians to take us to the Kingdom of God.
Now...for all the people who are left behind....it is a strong feeling of loss....an emptiness,
as you put it....a gap because something/someone left our experience. Imagine how her
son, Paul, and close associates feel, too. Miep was not an intimate friend to me, but I do
feel a loss, too. But, I know that she lives in a different existence. Now, you can talk to
her directly, Becky. She will hear you, but won't respond as people do on earth. I talk to
family and friends whom I miss....even my former pet dogs whom I miss terribly. As a
young person, I used to tell myself that the person who died was merely on a trip or
journey, so I wouldn't see them for a while. Actually, that is still the case...even though my
understanding has changed somewhat. I hope you understand what I have tried to convey.
In time, your grief and pain of loss will lessen. You need not punish yourself by holding onto
grief and depression....it is not necessary....and Miep would not want you to do that...nor do I.
You must arise above it gradually for yourself and all those people important to your life now.
If you don't, you destroy THE PRESENT because you can't change the past. You will be
miserable in the PRESENT. I have been there with my disease....I decided to change my
mind-set. No more obsessive negative thinking....I wanted joy in my life returned. So, I made
a conscious decision to do that. It worked. I have joy in my life and live it as I always have.
There have been deaths in the family, but I put it into perspective and move on.
I hope my comments will help you get through your grief now and in the future.
Love & hugs,
Melva
This message sounds like grief, bordering on depression.
If it continues, seek doctor's help for an antidepressant medication.
It is normal to feel a loss from death of a loved one, because the person
is no longer present physically. I believe that it is only the body that dies
because it becomes too old or has a physical illness....deteriorates. The
body is a vehicle in this physical life. This life is important to reach the
next level in the Kingdom of God. Just as Jesus arose from the dead into
a new spiritual body (that he could allow others to see when he wished),
our souls continue to live in a new existence. I have talked to a person
who had a near-death experience in the emergency room. He told me
that he left his body and watched and heard everyone around his body
from a spot near the ceiling of the room. He could voice what was said
by who said it. He said he felt at peace and would never fear death again.
Eventually, he re-entered his body; but it was painful because his body
was struggling to survive. I have about near-death experience before, so
I recognized what he was telling me. When my father died, he raised his
arm as he reached with his hand, as if taking someone's hand. Then,
he died. I told my sister-in-law Sally about that on the phone. She was
dying with metastasis from gallbladder to liver, etc. She thought that was
totally awesome! When she died, her sister and mother told me that Sally
raised both of her arms as if to greet and hug someone (unseen), then died
peacefully.
What I am trying to say to you is that for the person who dies, it is a release
or an escape of suffering from a body that can no longer serve them....but the
person's soul continues to live and be aware. That is what death is, in my opinion,
the parting of the soul from the body.
For me, I am not ready to leave this world yet. But there will come at time when
I will welcome it....an escape from any suffering, pain, and to let go and move on
to the promise of what is to come. I believe, that all of the people you mentioned
probably feel the same way. As long as we can continue to interact with this place,
time, and people and not be suffering, we will continue to keep on going physically.
But, when circumstances change drastically, we eventual will give up the struggle
and be greeted by unseen guardians to take us to the Kingdom of God.
Now...for all the people who are left behind....it is a strong feeling of loss....an emptiness,
as you put it....a gap because something/someone left our experience. Imagine how her
son, Paul, and close associates feel, too. Miep was not an intimate friend to me, but I do
feel a loss, too. But, I know that she lives in a different existence. Now, you can talk to
her directly, Becky. She will hear you, but won't respond as people do on earth. I talk to
family and friends whom I miss....even my former pet dogs whom I miss terribly. As a
young person, I used to tell myself that the person who died was merely on a trip or
journey, so I wouldn't see them for a while. Actually, that is still the case...even though my
understanding has changed somewhat. I hope you understand what I have tried to convey.
In time, your grief and pain of loss will lessen. You need not punish yourself by holding onto
grief and depression....it is not necessary....and Miep would not want you to do that...nor do I.
You must arise above it gradually for yourself and all those people important to your life now.
If you don't, you destroy THE PRESENT because you can't change the past. You will be
miserable in the PRESENT. I have been there with my disease....I decided to change my
mind-set. No more obsessive negative thinking....I wanted joy in my life returned. So, I made
a conscious decision to do that. It worked. I have joy in my life and live it as I always have.
There have been deaths in the family, but I put it into perspective and move on.
I hope my comments will help you get through your grief now and in the future.
Love & hugs,
Melva
-----Original Message-----
From: Becky
To: mjsolon
Sent: Tue, Jan 12, 2010 10:08 am
Subject: Re: In case you don't know yet.....sit down, first.
From: Becky
To: mjsolon
Sent: Tue, Jan 12, 2010 10:08 am
Subject: Re: In case you don't know yet.....sit down, first.
| Yes I have dreaded this day, and I dread the next day when Nesse is gone, and the next day when Manya is gone, and the next day when Jacob is gone, and the next day when YOU are gone....and my mother....and Pete's mother.....and Pete....and my sisters....and my dog. I dread all of those days, and I wonder sometimes why I stick around to endure so much of this pain of loss of those I love. My life feels so empty. I used to have a life in DC, but now it's gone and I'm alone. ---Becky --- On Tue, 1/12/10, mjsolon@aol.com <mjsolon@aol.com> wrote:
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