A concert to honor Marvin Hamlisch...& your fans.

Hi Steve,

I have to get ready soon to go to a memorial concert in honor of Marvin Hamlisch.  I really do miss seeing him at the symphony concerts that we go to a lot.  He was an awesome conductor, and he had funny stories to tell everyone, and he loved being involved in the Thursday night Q&A sessions too. They are planning to perform the songs that he wrote and composed, and talk about his life story.  I'm looking forward to it, but I'm sad about his passing.  He was truly an awesome dude.

So today I was skimming around on Facebook...(yeah I know, it's addictive)...and apparently some of YOUR fans are acting all junior high school for some weird reason. They have created a "Loony List," of women that they don't like and that others should avoid.  Yeah.  You read that right.  "I don't like her, so you shouldn't like her either!"  This is the phrase that kept echoing in my head as I read through it. "You're so immature!" "Oh yeah? Well you're a POOPYHEAD! So there!"

Geezus.

Being the stupid ass that I am, I try to keep the peace at all times.  Typically, however, I have learned in my lifetime that the messenger gets shot.  EVEN WHEN the messenger tries to be positive.  So I am now expecting to see MY name added to the poopyhead list....oh, I mean, the LOONY list.  My bad.

I wrote that they sound like immature junior high school kids on a playground, and since every one of those women including themselves, all adore YOU, they can't be ALL bad, and we should all RISE ABOVE the BS and petty name calling, and post POSITIVE stuff about you instead, because life is just too friggin' negative everywhere you look nowadays.  No need to add more negativity to it.

Anyway, so I'm probably gonna be shot in the face with a bazooka at any moment now.  Been nice knowin' ya.

This is why I don't have many female friends!!! Women really ARE bitches.  I gravitate more towards men as friends, actually.  Always have.  In fact, I just spent a few hours watching the DIY network with MAN CAVES as the show....of course, Jason the carpenter, is sexy as hell.  But, the coolness of the show is, they have FUN, there are no petty arguments, and the finished result is an awesome MAN CAVE party place that even I would enjoy hanging out in.  This, I must add, is NOT typical female behavior.  But then again, as you have probably figured out by now, I am NOT your typical female.

Another person on Facebook, in a separate page, wrote this sentence, and left the last word blank for others to fill in their own personal opinion...."Steve Perry is ____ to me."  Some wrote "an amazing singer," some wrote, "a gorgeous man," and still others wrote, "Someone I have adored for years."

I wrote, "a regular guy, who once had a job as a singer, who retired several years ago and just wants to live a normal life doing whatever he missed out on doing while he was busy working, who puts his pants on one leg at a time, is full of sin, and is an imperfect human, just like me."

I'll probably be burned at the stake for that one.

Ahhhh, reality.  It sometimes burns people in the ass, doesn't it.  My sister is a fine example.  Today, my best friend (who is Catholic and very anti-abortion), and my sister (an Atheist agitator), decided to spar with each other about God....and then I got a message from my best friend telling me that she will pray for my sister, but she cannot deal with her rants about God anymore.  She was offended and upset.

So, I wrote back to her---"My sister is an idiot, and even though she means well, just ignore her like I do."  This reply of mine, however, resulted in my sister responding by un-friending me, and telling me I am a bigger moron than she is.  I tried to send her a message to explain that she'll never change my best friend's mind about God or religion or abortion or any of those religious things, but her name did not pop into the message like it would if she were still on my friends list.  SIGH.  She can dish it out but she just can't take it.  She's always been that way though.

She thinks she's so much better than everybody else because she's VEGAN you know, and she lives in the UK, not the dreaded and "doomed" US.  She puts the US down all the time.  She puts down people who eat meat.  Her own father-in-law will no longer visit them because she won't allow him to eat meat when they have a dinner party.  Stupid.  She's a control freak, really, and when I speak a truth about her, like how condescending she acts towards people and how she'll never win friends or change minds with that tactic, she gets all pissed at me.

Truth hurts, but that's no my problem.  I didn't make it that way.  I just seek truth at all times, as brutal as it may be.

I know for a FACT that I am not perfect, and I know I will never ever try to be perfect ever AGAIN in my lifetime, because (having lived in a perfectionist hell most of my life), it just ain't worth the aggravation.  My attitude now, as I have grown older, is "I do my best, and if that's not good enough, FUCK OFF.  This is ME, take it or leave it.  I am not here to live life for YOU or anybody ELSE for that matter.  I live my life for ME."

On 9/11, I realized I was trying to save the world, but nobody WANTED to be saved.  That turned me right on my head, upside down, inside out, and backwards, all at the same time.  Fucked with my head. So, my ultimate conclusion about people is that nobody DESERVES to be saved, fuck 'em all, let 'em go blow up shit and kill each other, let 'em have their stupid petty bullshit junior high school clubs-----I have got better things to do.  MY world, the one I can and do control and spend time in every day, is one of PEACEFULNESS, and CONTENTMENT.  And there ain't nobody worthy enough to share it with me, unless I love them unconditionally.

You and Pete, and my mom.  That's about it.  Well, my dog too, but she can't read blogs.

That's why I just want to say to you, that you should write as many songs as you want to...or not.  You should go on another tour...if you want to.  Or not.  Whatever YOU want to do, is up to YOU, and nobody else can make you do something you don't want to do.  So I am GLAD that you are not allowing anyone to pressure you into doing anything anymore.  That's a great healthy way to be.  It's not easy, I know, but it's the only way to maintain your own inner peace, and THAT is the key to life.

Sure, I'll still play Devil's Advocate sometimes, and give you shit about it, or beg you to do it maybe... but like I said, I am an imperfect human too.  Sometimes, I am selfish about stuff like that because I love ya so much.  But, if you never sing again, GREAT, you're still awesome in my book.  It's called UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, from what I've been told, and yes, I am more than capable of giving it.

So, you've got it from me, for sure.  (For what its worth).

Well, I'm off to shower and get prettied up for a special symphony concert tonight.  Have a good one.

Love you lots....SMOOCH!!!

----Rebecca